Promises to Love/Live a Work/Life Balance
It’s Saturday afternoon of Labor Day weekend. The US Open is on and to be totally honest, I haven’t done a single thing of worth. My day-flow has been a little something like this:
- 9:10 AM Wake Up (slept in – yay for me)
- 9:11 AM Make coffee
- 10 AM Logged on to Facebook
- 10:30 AM Imported pictures from one computer to another (lots of memory lane walking here)
- 11:15 AM Had a snack
- Noon Decided it was time to play a little PlayStation
- 1:15 PM Changed video games and continued playing
- 2 PM Random article reading, cruising Facebook/Tumblr/Twitter
And now … here I am. Last night I enjoyed an evening hanging out with a good friend and previous colleague, her daughter and her husband. It was a great night. After the laughter and conversations, I started to think to myself … how can one person do it all … and enjoy it all?
In my short time in the workforce, I’ve enjoyed the craziness of 70-80+ hour work weeks, the don’t take my phone away from me moments and the incessant email checking. Before that, I always kept myself busy with sorority exec board, honor fraternities and student advisor for the dorms. And before that, I was the girl who started her own organization in HS, joined NHS and 6 other groups. So there you have it – I’ve never been good at idle. To be honest, I’m a recovering addict of the work/work addiction.
So, today I’m finally making myself chill out, relax, do nothing, and not feel guilty about it. Is it working? Am I convincing you yet? I’ve checked my email three times today, thought about an RFP response I should be working on and read SM articles that always trails my mind back to work. Here’s the thing – it never really turns off. Here’s why: when you love what you do and what you do really gets you excited, it’s always work and always life. But there are things I need to work on, so that what is really work stays here (motioning to the left) and my loving life lives over here (motioning to the right).
Here are my resolutions/promises to myself to move a little closer to a work/life balance. Will you take the challenge with me?
- I will not check email every 5 minutes, 10 minutes, hell let’s be crazy. I will only check it on Sunday, once. To assist, I will turn the PUSH function on my phone EOD Fridays.
- I will not turn on my IM on weekends or when I get home, because it’s too tempting to respond to people and work when most things can wait.
- I will work out at least 4-5 times a week. That 45 min to an hour is mine and mine alone. You need that.
- I will take at least 2 vacations a year. And, I will not bring my laptop. Last month, I spent 5 days in Isla Mujeres, totally disconnected. It was an eye/mind awakening experience that helped me get a little closer to being okay with being idle.
- I will recognize and live this mantra, “I am not that important.” No one really needs me that much, and no response is that critical. I don’t work in an ER, and I’m not in the business of saving lives. Ego manifests itself in both negative and positive ways, but its end result is always negative. A mentality that leads you to believe you are truly needed drives us, but it can destroy us. It’s finding yet another midpoint, so that my body has some semblance of homeostasis.
Do you have any tips on your you work out the kinks of a work/life balance?